Please keep all limbs inside the car at all times…
So, once we’d broken up we kept in contact, hung out together, etc. and I know I’d told him I had started seeing someone and I’m sure I gave his first name (Jim) but I honestly can’t tell you if I told Michale his LAST name so I was really, REALLY surprised to hear his voice coming out of the other his’s answering machine. It was totally surreal. Of course I went back to him!
And then it was about 6 weeks of Friday dates and Sunday brunches and this and that and the beginnings of wedding plans (for later on down the road, when we made it official, of course, but I enjoyed the dreaming part of things). And then, one Friday night, instead of going out he sat in my room, looking very guilty, and apologized for not being able to go through with it.
Who asked him to take care of me??? Not I, not that I remember! Granted, it may have seemed that I needed taking care of, maybe, at least it obviously did to him but that wasn’t anything of what _I_ wanted. So I told him to leave, went a bit hysterical, called a girlfriend and had a break-up night. Again. It didn’t help that this was also the week that I’d been fired from my job at the Plantation (after giving 2 weeks notice, they asked me to stay for 6, I said I couldn’t [afford to], they said we don’t need you past today) and restarted my bookkeeping job; there was a lot of turmoil that week!
[A break-up night, for those who’ve never had one, is a night where all mention of romance is forbidden. Funny movies are watced with NO romantic subplots. Copious amounts of food are consumed and the menu is total comfort: pizza, barbecue wings, Oreo cookies and ice creams (eaten straight from the container, no bowls). ]
So, at the end, will there be a scorecard? Total married: X. Total almost married: Y 🙂 That might seem snarky, and if so I apologize as it wasn’t my intent. I’m just trying to remember it because it’s all so interesting. 🙂
Oh, like snark is going to offend _me_??? lol I hadn’t thought of doing an actual scorecard but it’s a cute idea (and I have been wondering what I was going to put up on New Year’s Eve…). Amusingly enough, though, it’s the verbal scorecard that was the inspiration for the 24hour Comic story.
In the guy’s defense. That’s how a lot of us were raised. We have to be the protectors and be able to support our wives and family no matter what. We know you can take of yourselves, but it’s part of the code of chivalry that can’t be overlooked. Lest we lose our respect from family, society, and more importantly ourselves.
I totally understand that, Dan, but to use that as a reason for breaking up with me after making this grand show of effort getting me back? (Granted, I believe he used the “I love you, but I’m not IN love with you” defense during the first breakup and you can’t just trot that one out, again.)
Don’t misunderstand, I did plenty of my own wrong in that (and all the other) relationship(s); I’m no saint. And I still talk to Michael and like the guy as a human being so I don’t want to paint him as some villain, I was just sort of channeling my response from them to now 🙂
I agree, it was a pretty lame excuse. But I can understand how down he got though and how he could have thought that you deserve somone better. But if that’s how he really felt, he should have changed himself with your support. That’s what love is about. Trusting another to help you in your time of need just as you would do for them.
Oh by the way, that is a cute ring too. Hehe.
That’s another wild turn during a crazy wild tale. Lots of no-win situations it seems in some of this.